I found throughout my pregnancy journey that it was important for me to focus on my mindset.
Often thoughts would pop up after reading someone’s birth story and I would think ohhhh xyz could happen in MY birth.
That fear would weigh on my mind unless I found a way to connect back in with myself to feel positive about my freebirth.
If you don’t spend time creating healthy rituals to practice these mindset tools, you can start to feel like you are overwhelmed.
It is extremely tricky to feel confident about your choices when your mind is chaotic and constantly questioning your choices.
I’m guessing if you are reading this, you may be feeling the same!
So, I’ve come up with 5 ways to be more positive in your freebirth to help you move from overwhelm & chaos to feeling calm & positive!
Meditation is a basic practice for quieting the mind.
It offers you calmness and allows your mind time to let go of the current focus and allows your body to calm down and regulate itself.
The best way to use this during your pregnancy is to make it a daily ritual, just like you brush your teeth daily. You need to train yourself to regularly spend 10 minutes practicing this new skill.
I love to meditate before bed as it allows my mind to quiet down so I can drift peacefully to sleep.
2. Awareness of your thoughts
It is hard to be able to practice some of these tools if you don’t realise that your mind is twisting and twirling, to begin with.
I’m guessing you may already have some awareness of your thoughts and fears.
They can come out as simple as little niggles in your mind starting with “what about if XYZ happens”.
Now if you allow yourself to sit and stagnate on that one problem it could really derail your mindset and your belief in your ability to freebirth your baby!
One of the key steps in the process of freebirthing is self-belief.
And if you don’t master that and work on your mindset every day – a simple one-line fear that is playing on repeat could send you into a panic.
This could happen before labour or during labour and land you into the one place you are trying to avoid in the first place – a hospital birth.
Be aware of the thoughts that are twirling in your mind.
Make sure you take the steps to work through those thoughts and fears to the point that you are not getting stuck living in that doubt and fear.
3. Deep breathing
Deep breathing is one of my favourite tools in the mindset toolbox!
It is the easiest thing to do. I mean you are doing it all day every day anyways – all you are doing is changing it from shallow breathing to deep, gut-filled breaths.
I practiced this nearly every single day of my pregnancy.
To get me through Braxton hicks that had a bite, dull aching period pains, stretching pains, and to calm my mind down when it was racing a million miles an hour wondering if the choices I was making were right.
And not only does it calm your mind down by focusing on breathing and slowly releasing the air – it’s also an amazing skill to have during labour!!
Practice this with me now!
Breath in deeply for 7 seconds through your nose and fill your belly up. (make sure you aren’t puffing up your chest)
Then hold it for 2 seconds and breathe out through your mouth for 5 seconds.
Rinse and repeat as many times as you need.
4. Positive Affirmations
Using positive affirmations daily helps you to focus on the positive scenario rather than the not-so-positive story that your mind may be telling you.
I loved putting up my positive birth affirmation bunting during pregnancy on the wall in my lounge room where I spent a lot of my time.
This really set me up for making my birth space positive and my mindset.
It helped me to see those words clearly every single day and absorb them into my subconscious.
So, when I was in labour I had words that really resonated with me and that meant something.
My favourite affirmations during my pregnancy and birth were:
- Women all over the world are birthing with me
- You are home, you are safe, you are loved
- You are strong, you are powerful
- You are enough
5. Move your body
Moving your body during pregnancy can be amazing for your physical health, but did you know that it’s also amazing to support your mental wellbeing?
And you don’t have to do anything strenuous or for long periods to see a big change in your mood.
Just 10-minute stints of mindful moving can really see a switch from feeling low and down to feeling more energised, positive and upbeat.
You could fit in three sets of 10 minutes a day which adds up to 30 minutes a day!
That is 30 minutes where you are focusing on moving your body and not up in your head worrying.
Here’s an example of how your day could look:
10 minutes of morning stretching or yoga before work, or a day with the kids.
If you have little ones with you get them involved in the yoga. They will love moving their body and coping with mummy.
10 minutes of gardening at lunch – you may not have a huge, overgrown garden that needs constant attending to like me, but maybe you have a few plants or you’ve been thinking about starting a veggie patch.
10 minutes in the sun daily can really make a difference.
10 minute walk around the block in the late afternoon. Take the kids to a local park, or a walk around the block with the dog!
After reading the above you may not know where to start.
Just start with one thing that really resonates and once you have nailed that pick up another ritual and fit it into your daily routine.
There are plenty of tools you can use for your mindset to help you get out of your head and back into your body which is exactly what you want to achieve during your freebirth!
If you find that you need some accountability and support to work on your mindset further, I invite you to connect with me, and let’s discuss more on working through this together.
Come and share how you are going with your mindset work on Instagram – tag me in a story! @ashleylwinning